Being a parent comes with its ups and downs all the time, but it’s still one of the most wonderful things to be in life. Bringing up children is nourishing to the soul and mind. Kids always bring the best out of us. We all want our babies to grow up and be better than us, something they’ll be proud of.
As a parent, you sometimes feel as if the whole burden of your child’s existence is upon your shoulders. However, not all strategies are healthy in raising children.
There are some things that you must focus on as a parent to give your children all the emotional support they need. If you apply these 10 things we will discuss below, your children will mature emotionally, becoming more successful in what they’re doing.
Here are the 10 things that you can do if you want to raise successful children
1. Provide for your children a suitable environment
Growing up in a bad neighborhood can be quite a negative influential factor in your child upbringing. Parents who are keen on providing their children with a good environment where they can grow prioritize finding a home at a good neighborhood.
Exposing your children to some bad lifestyles on a daily basis can’t go without negative consequences. Kids are easily influenced by their environments. Kids are like little clever monkeys who imitate what they see.
If you’re a parent who lives in a shady part of the city, you might want to consider moving out to somewhere more family-friendly. Your children will thank you for that later, trust me!
2. Encourage your children to form positive relationships
It’s hard to define what a positive relationship is sometimes because humans are too complex. Some of the most toxic relationships appear very positive on the surface level.
As an adult and a parent, you have too much experience in life to give you a framework on which you evaluate positive relationships. Make sure your children know about what are those criteria.
Good relationships in life are essential for happiness, emotional fulfillment, and wealth as some researches have proven. You don’t want your children to miss out on these virtues by forming negative relationships.
A good starting point is to urge your children to be friends with people who are honest and not very unstable and troublesome.
3. Give your children praise in the right context
Praise is a tricky thing because it’s essentially the positive reinforcement of behaviorists. What I mean by this is that if you give positive reinforcement to your child for doing something, they will adopt that behavior and it will stick with them for the rest of their lives.
For that reason, you have to make sure that you’re giving your children praise for doing something that benefits them in the long-term, enhances their problem-solving skills, and makes them better humans.
For example, you should praise your child for preparing for the exam and having found it easy because they were prepared, not for receiving the highest score. If you praise your child for being the number one winner at everything, it will eventually come a time when they can’t be that. When that time happens, you don’t want your child to think less of themselves because they weren’t number one.
4. Teach your kids to do their chores early
Doing chores is an integral part of being a human. If an adult fails at doing their daily chores, it’s usually a sign of a bad upbringing.
Teaching your children to do their chores at an early age isn’t about them helping you; it’s more about teaching them responsibility and a healthy sense of duty.
An adult who is taking good care of themself and home is probably someone who got used to doing it ever since they were children.
5. Provide your children with adequate support
Though you have to teach your children how to live on their own, supporting them from time to time is much appreciated, especially in the long-term. Support doesn’t always have to be material or financial; emotional support is better than anything else from time to time.
Just knowing that there’s a parent who cares and is ready to support can mean a lot to children. It makes them motivated to perform better at anything they do.
When children fall into trouble (they usually do that several times), it’s more important to them on a developmental level to be met with support. If you show indifference to your children, they might seek attention in some twisted ways.
Defending your children and saving them from trouble creates a healthy parent-child bond that children need to be motivated to be good people. To be successful in life, you need support from your parents (or parent figures) from time to time.
6. Give your children the liberty to choose their path in life and dream big
Parents can’t help but imagine bright futures where their children do exactly what they believe is good. Clash happens when children grow up and realize that they don’t want to follow the path that their parents have laid for them. The high expectations of the parents shouldn’t be forced on the children. If expectations are forced children will have lots of pressure to make their parents happy that they will eventually want to break out from.
Kids should be influenced subtly. Children are not born blank slates that can be shaped however you want. There are many natural factors and environmental factors that shape up your child’s personality and preferences in life.
Some children are naturally creative people, others are highly organized, some are agreeable, while others are perhaps assertive and stubborn. As your child grows up, their personality might change, but some things are always constant. These things are what decide the path of your child in life.
For example, a creative child can grow up to be an artist. A parent shouldn’t force that child to become an engineer unless he enjoys science in addition to art.
Your child’s dreams in life should be prioritized. You should urge your child to dream big and follow suit what they dream about. Their path in life might not be what you want for them after all; it’s their life and their dreams.
People are very likely to be successful in doing things they love!