Every child deserves the love and warmth of a family. At this stage of their lives, they have potentials that need to be exploited and developed. This requires a special type of encouragement and motivation which the warmth of a family provides. Adoption is a legal process of assuming the parent position for children whose biological parents no longer wish to raise either by choice or circumstances. When children are adopted, they get a chance to live like normal children in the care of their parents. But then what happens when these families don’t want them again. It is not always as easy as it looks at both parties. What happens however can be very complicated and it is really not about apportioning blames. When families decide to give up a child they have adopted, it is called disruptions. Even though there is not much data about disruptions, a lot of it is happening in our society. The reason why a lot of these issues are unknown is because of the nature of the adoptions. Some are closed adoptions. Disruption also does not have much legal process as the process is quite similar to that of giving up a child for adoption. Disruption looks like a perfect word for this because a relationship of hope and love becomes disrupted. The experience has the potential of damaging the child’s self-esteem or feeling of worth. The adoptive parents also lose out on the love and relationship they possibly looked forward to. Some parents suffer abusive and harsh comments from outsiders who do not know what they are passing through.
Experts say that the children who have suffered disruption can develop some disorder known as insecure attachment. This disorder causes children to find it difficult to trust caretakers, nannies or even new parents when they eventually get one. As you can presume, this may be the cause of the disruption and also could cause more disruptions even in their new homes when they get one. What of the possibility of a damaged personality. The trauma children go through in disruptions can make them unstable and struggle with mood swings according to an expert, Mendez. Mendez also said that there is no easy way of dealing with disruptions but advised parents to work with therapists and children services when this happen.
When parents decide to give up their kids for adoption, they have to involve a lawyer if the child was adopted legally. The parents who adopted child have to find a new home or resources to ensure the child is been taking care of. Just as previously said, the process is like giving up a biological child for adoption. The child has to be in the care of a new home, adoption agency or foster care. In the case of international adoption, the process is quite similar only that the country would be notified of the disruption by the adoption agency. Usually, they never return a child to their country. Rather, a search begins for the child’s new home.
An attorney, Jennifer Fairfax said she has helped families find a new home for their adoptive kids. Of course, that means she has also helped families adopt kids from disruptions. She said in some of the cases of disruptions, the adopted kids are older and it just doesn’t work with the family. She also mentioned that some of the children have reactive attachment disorder which the families are not able to deal with. Reactive attachment disorder is when the child can not establish healthy attachment with their adoptive parent. Children develop this condition when they have experienced inadequate care. These children are now been advertised on Facebook and other platforms on the internet.
An adoption agency called second chance adoptions gives a second chance of adoption as the name suggests in the United States. They help children that their adoptive parents no longer want to parent find new homes. The pictures of these children are placed on the company’s website and there has been debate on whether it is an ethical thing to do. The agency says it started out of concern for parents and kids that they are trying to find a new home for. Child welfare advocates like Flatley are concerned about the whole adoption process and how it can be improved. She said her parents fostered children when she was young and that experience is what is motivating her to advocate for an improved adoption system. She said she has advised Representative Jim Langevin on instituting legislation that will improve the system. She also believed that proper screening of parents will reduce the disruption rate. Second chance adoptions boasted of successfully finding new homes for more than 110 children. However, there is also an estimate of about 6 percent failure which means that some of these children will sadly need another home.
When adoption fails and the option left is to give up the child for another adoption, it is usually not a good experience for both the adoptive and the child. The experience can damage the child psychologically and then there is the duty of finding a new home.